For a long time, keeping people out mattered to you. You didn’t want to hear you needed help. You didn’t want to see the look of disappointment in their eyes or sometimes even the look of disgust. Removing people made it easier, not better, but easier. Even when some part of you knew they were right, you still shunned them. You weren’t ready for the truth. But even in your darkest, weakest hour, you knew the truth was lurking about, even as you shunned that too.
But now, you want recovery to last, hoping recovery will last. Acknowledging that keeping people out and keeping the truth out has brought you no happiness, no hope, no life. So let’s start here. Starting with the truth is where we start. No more addict talk; we’ve heard it all anyway.
So truth is, you need help. Help comes from others. It comes from being open. And when you are open, stuff comes in.
Some people come into your life just because you show up: for example, at meetings. Others come in because you seek them out. Still others come in because they have been waiting for you to open up. They may be parents, friends, children, or coworkers.
No one does recovery alone. No one should do recovery alone. No one has to do recovery alone. We need others to help navigate us through uncharted waters. We need others for encouragement, for examples of success. We need to be obligated to others so that we show up at meetings, at appointments, at groups.
We need others with whom to share our feelings and our fears. We need others so we are not alone in this battle. We need encouragement, we need to be part of something, and we need new friends and a new community.
We need aftercare. We need fellowship. We need a new way to cope and people who can show us how that can be done. We need support. We need help. Support is help, and help is support.
People are waiting to help you. People want to help you. Let them.
Remember, the door opens for those who knock. You be the door that opens to let others in. Listen, people are knocking.